Yes, time flies! We think we have a whole year to look forward to but no, 2019 is well on its way. Christmas and New Year are almost a distant memory as we look forward to what is ahead.

Before we know it, February will be sliding out the door! At New Year I’m guessing we all made promises to change this or that, do better at things, get up earlier, work smarter.

I know some of us would have made promises to lose that extra kilo or two by February, or maybe March, put a little more money away so we could have a real holiday, upgrade the car, eat healthier. Did any of us vow to be kinder to ourselves, take time out for that wonderful being who lives inside of us, and learn to take our foot off the stress pedal more often? Have we, this year, given ourselves permission to enjoy life, to forgive ourselves when we mess up, and move on.

There are many things we’d all like to achieve this year – things we’d like to do, have, learn, experience, accomplish. How much will we manage to get done, and how much will we let slide through no time, too much to do, too stressed to manage – all those things that seem to hold us back from our fabulously, well-meant intentions? Yes, you know what I mean!

So where to now, from here?

So often we start out well on our brand-new track but then our good intentions begin slowing down a little and those unhelpful but “well lived in” old habits, those ones we swore we would give up, are waiting to trip us! How easy it is to fall back into old habits, old ways of doing things – after all, they’re so comfortable, aren’t they?

Oh, you ask! And how are MY promises holding up?


Well, I’ll tell you one of my major vows to myself! I’ve lately begun to realise that sugar in any form after dinner seems to be the main cause of my far too frequent, too long, sleepless nights so I made a promise to myself – no sugar of any kind after dinner. Would you like to guess how well that is going for me – mmmmm, old habits creep in and trip me up way too often, but even so, I’m getting much better at my new no sugar habit – and sooooo much better at sleeping through the night! Yes, no sugar late in the day or evening works for me, and if you have trouble sleeping, you might like to try it. Let me know if it helps you also.

It IS possible to change our habits and the parts of ourselves we aren’t happy with. It rarely happens all at once and may take many tries but anything, with practise, can get better and better. From little things big things grow and as one step leads to another, so one small change practised regularly leads to greater changes.

It’s important to love ourselves, no matter how many times we fall off the wagon – if we won’t love ourselves, why should others?

So, I will work at no sugar after dinner and walking my 4 or 5 kms every day, no matter what, so both my dog and I can be fit. I will strive be more diligent, structured and productive with my time, love myself no matter what and be grateful, so very grateful, for both the joys and the learnings the Universe constantly sends me in bountiful measures!

I sincerely hope your day is happy,


PS: I’d love to hear how 2019 is working for you so far. If you’d like to, please leave a comment below, and don’t hesitate to pass this on. Sometimes just a few words can be the right words to help someone change a habit they haven’t been able to kick – or at least give them courage to keep trying!!

  • Jill Moor

    February 5, 2019 at 5:46 am Reply

    Very true and sage words. Keep up the good work

    • Zee Dammerel

      February 7, 2019 at 5:32 am Reply

      Many thanks, Jill.

  • Tamara Badcock

    February 5, 2019 at 8:02 pm Reply

    Hey Zee, 2019 is working out really well so far, loving my new job and the freedom it gives. Kids are going really well at school and kindy.

    Thank you for your Blogs I look forward to them.

    Love Tam

    • Zee Dammerel

      February 7, 2019 at 5:31 am Reply

      Freedom gives us space to grow – and to find out who we are outside the boundaries of relationship and parenthood. Thank you for your feedback!

  • Alison Shields

    February 5, 2019 at 11:21 pm Reply

    How interesting to hear sugar may be the culprit in poor sleep. Will have to test it (and, as you say, accept the occasional lapses and try again).
    Thank you for this idea — and all the others.

    • Zee Dammerel

      February 7, 2019 at 5:28 am Reply

      Sugar can be a slippery customer – not only does it hide in the sweet treats, but in the bread, the pasta, the wine I like to drink and even the fruit I tell myself I can have because, after all, it’s fruit. I can tell you – my mind traps me up over and over!

  • Lindsay Smith

    February 6, 2019 at 8:48 am Reply

    Perfect timing Zee as I have been giving myself an almighty beating for not following through on reforming bad habits! With thought I do this every February! I shall take on board your wise words and approach what needs to be changed with more understanding and a lighter touch. X

    • Zee Dammerel

      February 7, 2019 at 5:25 am Reply

      I think we’re always harder on ourselves than we are on everyone else on the planet – if we could only be as perfect as we think we should be!!

  • Cathie A

    February 16, 2019 at 3:11 am Reply

    Such a beautiful tone of understanding in your post Zee! Yes the self pressure to shift old habits … I get frustrated and self critical that I’m not moving forward fast enough. As you say, it’s step by step, and just small steps are ok – even a change to the repeated self-talk is a step I suppose! Thanks for your refreshing posts Zee! Keep them coming.

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